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FAMILY – GOD’S FUNDAMENTAL INSTITUTION.  
  Posted On : 04 Jan 2017   Posted by Fr. Editorial  
 

FAMILY – GOD’S FUNDAMENTAL INSTITUTION.

“Family, like the branches on a tree, all grow in different directions, and yet the roots remain as one.”
When God created Adam and Eve he blessed them to increase and multiply over all the earth.  God thus founded the concept of family.  Adam’s family was the first to occupy the earth.  God created man and woman as one being and commanded no one to separate them.  He put His seal of approval on this union.  Since then technological and scientific progress of mankind has left its positive and negative effects on the family.  Traditional values, the discipline of a time of prayer in families, time spent together as a family have all vanished in the face of modernism and the fast life of the people.  Everyone wants his or her ‘space’ and does not like ‘interference’ of another in his or her life.   This is the sad situation of the family today because of which most families have major adjustment issues if not falling apart altogether.

 

ROLE OF PARENTS IN THE FAMILY:     By God’s decree man is the head of the family.  Ideally a husband plays the role of a provider, a companion to his wife and as a father, a strict disciplinarian.  A woman is the heart of the family.  Her loving presence binds the family and brings about unity.  What a woman lacks in terms of physical strength, she makes up by her emotional stability.  She is the shock¬- absorber in the family.  Every family should be a family that prays together to be united.  However, in this present time man lacks nothing but ‘Time’ and hides behind this excuse for not praying.  Luxuries, wealth, comforts are all taken care of with hard work but the general statement heard in many families is “We have no time to pray” or “We say our individual prayers before sleeping.”  Little do they realize that the enemy is slowly robbing them of peace and their children are becoming out of control because the wall of protection that prayer provides has been lowered allowing the enemy to infiltrate in.  Therefore, it is imperative that parents instill the habit of prayer into their children from their very early years.  “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord” (Joshua 24:15).
Parents are role models for growing children in the family.  Parents who quarrel in front of their children cause many psychological problems to develop in them.  Children who grow up in a loving atmosphere can concentrate on their studies and build up a career for themselves.  They are free from emotional trauma.  Children who are subjected to violent fights in the house are fearful, insecure, always wondering if they will be part of a broken family.  Such children seek comfort, acceptance and guidance from friends and are more often led into bad habits like smoking, drinking and use of drugs to live in a state of euphoria because they lack peace at home.  A growing child can sense the behavior pattern of parents.  Children are very perceptive and can pick up signals both positive and negative.  For instance, if both parents are not agreeable on the matter of discipline then the child will play one parent against the other.  The child will complain to the parent who favours it about the parent who is trying to discipline.  This often leads to arguments between the spouses.  So it is necessary for both parents to be of one mind while disciplining their children. 

 

God blesses the married couple with children.   He appoints them as custodians of their children’s soul.  Parents are responsible and answerable to God for the souls of their children.  Hence it is their duty as parents to discipline them, teach them good morals and values.  Today’s children are subjected to peer-pressure and they imitate what their friends do.  From an early age parents must monitor the type of friends their children have.  Children and youth demand money from their parents.  Parents relent by giving them money either to pamper them or to get rid of their irritating persistence for money.  This is the root cause of children going astray.  Without money they cannot do much.  By giving them money, they won’t value it and most often spend it on pursuing bad habits ‘just because their friends are doing it’.   Parents usually say ‘Yes’ to all of their children’s demands.  This is a wrong practice.  From the time children are small parents must say ‘No’ to their children’s demands.  Only then will they accept a ‘No’ when they become youth.  A child who is used to having ones own way from childhood will not be any different when it becomes a youth.  It is difficult to bend a mature plant for it will break but the plant can be well bent when it is tender. 

 

Parents who find that their youth have gone astray and far from God must not despair.  God loves every soul he has created and wants to save everyone.  This is evident from Jesus’ parables of the Good Shepherd and lost sheep, the Prodigal Son etc.  Parents have to have faith in God, believing that He, more than anyone else, wants to save the soul of their son or daughter.  A mother’s supplication before the Lord is a strong one.  Her tears before the Lord will not go unnoticed or ignored.  God in His own time will bring back the erring soul to His sheep-fold.  He may use circumstances and a little pruning but if the parents keep faith in His mercy He will surely turn the impossible situation into something beautiful.  It is all a matter of faith.   Faith comes from hearing the Word of God hence it is said, “Blessed is the family who delights in the Word of the Lord and meditates on it day and night.  The family will be like a tree planted by streams of water, yielding fruit in its season.”    Parents who are themselves spiritual may have youth who do not join in family prayer or read the Word of God.  Some may not even attend Sunday Mass.  This hurts the parents who themselves love the Lord and when they see their children not having the same love for God causes them to despair.  Let not the enemy rob you of your peace.  Prayer is the key that unlocks many doors.  Parents must pray with faith and know that the Lord will always hear their prayers on behalf of their children.  

 

ROLE OF CHILDREN TOWARDS THEIR PARENTS:    Eph.6:1-4: “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.  Honor your father and mother – which is the first commandment with a promise – that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.  Fathers, do not exasperate your children, instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”
The above text from scripture shows that it is God’s will that children and youth remain subjected to their parents.  If the commandment of honouring ones parents is followed diligently, many blessings are given to such children.  God will be with all that they do and the work of their hands will prosper.  Obedience to parents is like being obedient to God which pleases Him.  Parents have learnt life’s lessons by making mistakes and gained experience.  So it will do well for children and youth to listen to what their parents say.   Sons and daughters must also take care of their parents in their old age as they have taken care of them since their birth.   “What can you do to promote world peace? Go home and love your family.”– Mother Teresa.

 

Leona D’Souza
O.C.D.S.

 

 

 
     
 
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 March 24th, 2019
EX 17:3-7
Thought of the day
    March 24th, 2019 EX 17:3-7 Third Sunday of Lent – Year A Readings Lectionary: 28 Reading In those days, in their thirst for water, the people grumbled against Moses, saying, "Why did you ever make us leave Egypt? Was it just to have us die here of thirst with our children and our livestock?" So Moses cried out to the LORD, "What shall I do with this people? a little more and they will stone me!" The LORD answered Moses, "Go over there in front of the people, along with some of the elders of Israel, holding in your hand, as you go, the staff with which you struck the river. I will be standing there in front of you on the rock in Horeb. Strike the rock, and the water will flow from it for the people to drink." This Moses did, in the presence of the elders of Israel. The place was called Massah and Meribah, because the Israelites quarreled there and tested the LORD, saying, "Is the LORD in our midst or not?" Responsorial Psalm PS 95:1-2, 6-7, 8-9. R. (8) If today you hear his voice, harden not your hearts. Come, let us sing joyfully to the LORD; let us acclaim the Rock of our salvation. Let us come into his presence with thanksgiving; let us joyfully sing psalms to him. R. If today you hear his voice, harden not your hearts. Come, let us bow down in worship; let us kneel before the LORD who made us. For he is our God, and we are the people he shepherds, the flock he guides. R. If today you hear his voice, harden not your hearts. Oh, that today you would hear his voice: "Harden not your hearts as at Meribah, as in the day of Massah in the desert, Where your fathers tempted me; they tested me though they had seen my works." R. If today you hear his voice, harden not your hearts. Reading 2 ROM 5:1-2, 5-8 Brothers and sisters: Since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith to this grace in which we stand, and we boast in hope of the glory of God. And hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us. For Christ, while we were still helpless, died at the appointed time for the ungodly. Indeed, only with difficulty does one die for a just person, though perhaps for a good person one might even find courage to die. But God proves his love for us in that while we were still sinners Christ died for us. Verse Before The Gospel CF. JN 4:42, 15 Lord, you are truly the Savior of the world; give me living water, that I may never thirst again. Gospel JN 4:5-42 Jesus came to a town of Samaria called Sychar, near the plot of land that Jacob had given to his son Joseph. Jacob's well was there. Jesus, tired from his journey, sat down there at the well. It was about noon. A woman of Samaria came to draw water. Jesus said to her, "Give me a drink." His disciples had gone into the town to buy food. The Samaritan woman said to him, "How can you, a Jew, ask me, a Samaritan woman, for a drink?" —For Jews use nothing in common with Samaritans.— Jesus answered and said to her, "If you knew the gift of God and who is saying to you, 'Give me a drink, ' you would have asked him and he would have given you living water." The woman said to him, "Sir, you do not even have a bucket and the cistern is deep; where then can you get this living water? Are you greater than our father Jacob, who gave us this cistern and drank from it himself with his children and his flocks?" Jesus answered and said to her, "Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again; but whoever drinks the water I shall give will never thirst; the water I shall give will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life." The woman said to him, "Sir, give me this water, so that I may not be thirsty or have to keep coming here to draw water." Jesus said to her, "Go call your husband and come back." The woman answered and said to him, "I do not have a husband." Jesus answered her, "You are right in saying, 'I do not have a husband.' For you have had five husbands, and the one you have now is not your husband. What you have said is true." The woman said to him, "Sir, I can see that you are a prophet. Our ancestors worshiped on this mountain; but you people say that the place to worship is in Jerusalem." Jesus said to her, "Believe me, woman, the hour is coming when you will worship the Father neither on this mountain nor in Jerusalem. You people worship what you do not understand; we worship what we understand, because salvation is from the Jews. But the hour is coming, and is now here, when true worshipers will worship the Father in Spirit and truth; and indeed the Father seeks such people to worship him. God is Spirit, and those who worship him must worship in Spirit and truth." The woman said to him, "I know that the Messiah is coming, the one called the Christ; when he comes, he will tell us everything." Jesus said to her, "I am he, the one speaking with you." At that moment his disciples returned, and were amazed that he was talking with a woman, but still no one said, "What are you looking for?" or "Why are you talking with her?" The woman left her water jar and went into the town and said to the people, "Come see a man who told me everything I have done. Could he possibly be the Christ?" They went out of the town and came to him. Meanwhile, the disciples urged him, "Rabbi, eat." But he said to them, "I have food to eat of which you do not know." So the disciples said to one another, "Could someone have brought him something to eat?" Jesus said to them, "My food is to do the will of the one who sent me and to finish his work. Do you not say, 'In four months the harvest will be here'? I tell you, look up and see the fields ripe for the harvest. The reaper is already receiving payment and gathering crops for eternal life, so that the sower and reaper can rejoice together. For here the saying is verified that 'One sows and another reaps.' I sent you to reap what you have not worked for; others have done the work, and you are sharing the fruits of their work." Many of the Samaritans of that town began to believe in him because of the word of the woman who testified, "He told me everything I have done." When the Samaritans came to him, they invited him to stay with them; and he stayed there two days. Many more began to believe in him because of his word, and they said to the woman, "We no longer believe because of your word; for we have heard for ourselves, and we know that this is truly the savior of the world." Or JN 4:5-15, 19B-26, 39A, 40-42 Jesus came to a town of Samaria called Sychar, near the plot of land that Jacob had given to his son Joseph. Jacob's well was there. Jesus, tired from his journey, sat down there at the well. It was about noon. A woman of Samaria came to draw water. Jesus said to her, "Give me a drink." His disciples had gone into the town to buy food. The Samaritan woman said to him, "How can you, a Jew, ask me, a Samaritan woman, for a drink?" —For Jews use nothing in common with Samaritans.— Jesus answered and said to her, "If you knew the gift of God and who is saying to you, 'Give me a drink, ' you would have asked him and he would have given you living water." The woman said to him, "Sir, you do not even have a bucket and the cistern is deep; where then can you get this living water? Are you greater than our father Jacob, who gave us this cistern and drank from it himself with his children and his flocks?" Jesus answered and said to her, "Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again; but whoever drinks the water I shall give will never thirst; the water I shall give will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life." The woman said to him, "Sir, give me this water, so that I may not be thirsty or have to keep coming here to draw water. "I can see that you are a prophet. Our ancestors worshiped on this mountain; but you people say that the place to worship is in Jerusalem." Jesus said to her, "Believe me, woman, the hour is coming when you will worship the Father neither on this mountain nor in Jerusalem. You people worship what you do not understand; we worship what we understand, because salvation is from the Jews. But the hour is coming, and is now here, when true worshipers will worship the Father in Spirit and truth; and indeed the Father seeks such people to worship him. God is Spirit, and those who worship him must worship in Spirit and truth." The woman said to him, "I know that the Messiah is coming, the one called the Christ; when he comes, he will tell us everything." Jesus said to her, "I am he, the one who is speaking with you." Many of the Samaritans of that town began to believe in him. When the Samaritans came to him, they invited him to stay with them; and he stayed there two days. Many more began to believe in him because of his word, and they said to the woman, "We no longer believe because of your word; for we have heard for ourselves, and we know that this is truly the savior of the world."
     
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